My needs

4 walls
3 words
2 hearts
1 love

I might have some bitter feelings about life at times but I realize I'm not the only one. It's a lot of anger going around in this world. A lot of loveless feelings, actions and thoughts. So what can we do? What do we expect to happen?

I was listening to a county song (yes I dab into country sometime...not often tho...lol) and the chorus said we need 4 walls, 3 words, 2 hearts and 1 love.

Truth: the happiest people have shelter, support, companionship and love. What more do we need? nothing really! Just the motivation to keep pushing to this countdown.

Hope you get to yours because I'm fighting to get to mine!


XoXoXoX
 MsSuga

My Love

So I was in the library & I was listening to Jill Scott's song "My Love" & I must say that song is the ish! Not only Bc it sounds good (remember everything that sound or look good ain't good for u!) but also Bc of what she says. "My love is deeper, tighter, sweeter, higher, fire didn't you know this? Or didn't you notice?"

Idk about y'all but I'm taking this statement way past sexual! My girl is saying I'm the ish in the bedroom, the kitchen, at ya mama's house, at the church house...every where WE go know that my love is the ish!

I have always felt this way about myself. Yeah I just broke up w/ my old man but that didn't do a thing to my ego...I'm STILL the ish & he (along w/ all my exes) can tell u that I love & I love hard.

Don't think I'm boasting or even that I'm trying to downplay the next chic Bc I wish everyone would feel this way. Insecurities are the recipe for so many problems that we are better off without.

There is a big difference between confidence & conceitedness. Usually if one is conceited they are embracing an illusion & have yet to find themselves & their true reality. To be confident is to be comfortable with yourself & know your limits & what you are capable of.

Learn & remember the difference SweetToothers! Life's much better when u live & love the truth!

Be Sweet, Be Blessed
XoXo MsSuga XoXo

What inspires you?

Ok So I have been kind of in a rut lately and I’ve been pondering what should we talk about with my sweet hearts. So I solicited the help of some of my family and friends. I asked them one simple question “What inspires you?” The answers I received were awesome; some very simplistic and others rather hilarious. I wish to share with you their answers but I want to spread it out into more than one post. I cannot promise how many posts will be produced from this simple survey but I do hope these answers and my opinions will help you with your own truths. So here we go…

When asked “What inspires you?” some answer “plenty of things,” others have one specific answer and then there are those that never really pinpoint what inspires them to do whatever it is they do. During my mini survey of people I know my number one answer was family and children. It’s interesting when asked “what” people respond with “whom”. There is no right or wrong answer, it comes from within. Several of my friends are single mothers in fact my current beau is a single father. I watch these people struggle every single day to make ends meat and provide a safe environment for their children.

In case you haven’t realized, parenthood is the hardest job but the most fulfilling job one can ever have. Yes there are some people in this world that take the job of parenting for granted and do as little as possible to take care of their kids. But there are those wonderful people that work two and three jobs to provide for their children. There is a mother in our society that has a one bedroom apartment where she and her kids sleep in the same bed and tomorrow morning she won’t eat so that the kids have enough. And there is a man that works his fingers to the bone to make sure the lights and water in his home are still running so his wife and children can live comfortably. Why you may ask, does someone put themselves through so much pain and suffering, willingly, for someone else? Well I’m no mother but I can tell you the answer is clear as day, as a parent one will risk their lives to ensure the safety of their children. I cannot say that I fully understand the concept but because I am not a parent however I did see firsthand how my parents were with me.

Some people actually get to live the American dream of getting married to someone they love and having children when they are financially stable. But most people in this world don’t get that privilege, not everyone planned to be parents and surely not everyone was prepared to take on the task. But they live and they learn to make it work. They work harder than ever for pennies a week, they live in slums and sometimes lose sleep and don’t get enough to eat but they keep on. They keep on because of their inspirations, their children. I salute the person that says their children are what keep them going. That shows you that even though these children did not ask to be here their lives will not go to waste. It shows that the single parent wants more for their child then they had for themselves.

It’s one thing to show a child how to play a game but it’s something different to teach a child how to play and win at this game called life. These children will grow up to be adults and one would hope that they will take their parents’ drive and ambition and turn it into their own positivity. I am proud to have these strong willed people in my life and they inspire me to inspire you to pass on this positive energy and inspire someone else. It takes one idea to start the process to change the world but in order to realize that change maybe you should start with one simple question: “What inspires you?”

Greetings Sweet toothers!! This is a test to see how good the mobile blog works...we will talk soon.

XoXoXoXo
MsSuga

In my feelings

Ok yall im getting a little too personal for my liking but this is situation im in is ringing in my ears!! I have to get these emotions out so my mind can be clear to do what i need to do. So bear with me skip to the next blog if u feel the need to. But right now I'm going back to my beginning......poetry

What I want, I cant have.
What I need, You cant give to me.
All I want is to love and be loved.
Will you be able to give it to me?
 How do you compete with someones past?
I can never be what she was for you unless you let me.
Holding on to your past is detrimental to our future.
So where does that leave me?
Am I where I want to be?
Are you what is meant for me?
Or are we just in love with this dream?
Your eyes tell a story and I'm not sure if u are ready for the tale I see.
You want peace and happiness. Love and Stability
But you cant seem to let go.
So until you do we won't be what you want us to be.
And until you make up you mind we're only be in love with this dream.
I need to be free from...this...this hold that you have on me.
This wont get the best of me.
What I want, I cant have
And What I need, you cant give to me
I will control my destiny
On this journey to get to be where i need to be
The Question remains
Will you maintain your fears or will you join me?




Thanks for letting me vent SweetToothers!!

xoxoxox
MsSuga

Church time

So my homegirl and I were riding home and we got into this mini conversation about our church and how we feel about what it has become over the years. (Rewind: My homegirl and I grew up together in this church. We weren't that close until this past year & now we're almost inseparable. it's good to have lifelong friends that u can chill with @ the club & @ church.) She was saying that even though her heart resides at our church she doesn't fully understand the teachings our pastor does. Not to say that he isn't a good pastor because he is a Wonderful Man of God and we both love him dearly (He's like a second father to me) but his teachings and preachings aren't that interesting to our generation X mentalities.

I agree to her feelings to a certain extent, see my problem isn't really the teachings because I do feel I get something out of his word. It may not be all of what I needed but it is something. My problem is that even though there are so many hypocrites in the church that I don't feel the sincerity in their worship.  Yes I know you can't let other people stand in the way of your relationship with GOD but it's hard to see the people you look up to in the spiritual sense and respect them in church after watching them live secular lives every other day. 

All I want to know is how do young women like ourselves who desire the word and the experience receive the word from an older out dated source and still get what we want/need from it? What more is there to do & will we just have to do it ourselves?

Have you ever had someone in your life that you just wish you could take all of their pains away?? No matter how hard we try or what we do we cannot live the lives and fight the fight for others. There is someone that is really close to me and I trully do love her but she is painfully unhappy. Now me being the poster child for doing what I need to do to be happy Idk what to do for her. I encourage her, I pray for her but that is about all I can do...until she puts her own desires into actions my help can only do so much.

I will admit that there are some things in my life that I am not completely happy with but I am working to change that. I dedicate a lot of my spare time helping others, and in turn I am helping myself to be better person. "I've come to far from where I started from. No body told me that the road would be easy, but I don't believe he brought me this far to leave me." There is more work to be done for me and I know she probably has just as much potential growth as anyone else. Hopefully things will get better for her...I pray that they do...

If you all never get anything else from all my ranting and raving do know that CHANGE STARTS AND ENDS WITH YOU...



XoxoxoxO
Ms.Suga