Have you ever had someone in your life that you just wish you could take all of their pains away?? No matter how hard we try or what we do we cannot live the lives and fight the fight for others. There is someone that is really close to me and I trully do love her but she is painfully unhappy. Now me being the poster child for doing what I need to do to be happy Idk what to do for her. I encourage her, I pray for her but that is about all I can do...until she puts her own desires into actions my help can only do so much.
I will admit that there are some things in my life that I am not completely happy with but I am working to change that. I dedicate a lot of my spare time helping others, and in turn I am helping myself to be better person. "I've come to far from where I started from. No body told me that the road would be easy, but I don't believe he brought me this far to leave me." There is more work to be done for me and I know she probably has just as much potential growth as anyone else. Hopefully things will get better for her...I pray that they do...
If you all never get anything else from all my ranting and raving do know that CHANGE STARTS AND ENDS WITH YOU...
XoxoxoxO
Ms.Suga
Sunday, September 19, 2010
Monday, September 6, 2010
A Man's World
Ok so everyday i have atleast one in-depth conversation with my homegirl. It's usually via text message which as you can tell by the way i talk ends up being like 5 text pages at a time. Well on of yesterday's questions was "How old is too old for a man to still live with his mom?" Now since yesterday i've deleted my response but i wanted to share this question as well as my response.
So....let's got!!
"How old is too old for a man to still live with his mom?" To me there is no real answer for this question. I have dealt with all kinds of men from all walks of life and at some point they have given me their "story." From what i gather, on my research of men, men instinctively have the need to provide and protect. Which is why they are so territorial, jealous and sometimes pig-headed. (No fellas I am not bashing you...atleast not right this second). But it makes sense. As women we are very protective of our own which is why some mothers are so territorial, jealous and sometimes pig-headed as well. But here's the kicker...what does it take to make a man feel like a man? Besides the obvious of course.
I met a man who was 32 years old and lived with his mama. He had a fairly decent job, stayed out of trouble and was a genuinely nice guy. BUT his mama waited on him hand and foot! I had to get up out of there because he was NOT about to have me taking care of him all the damn time...So not acceptable!
Then I knew another guy age 27 who lived on the wrong side of the law but his place of residence was his moms house. He never "worked" from there but he had no other place that he called home. So does that count? Yes! he needs to have his OWN SPACE!!
It takes a man to stand his ground and hold is own. But it takes a woman to do everything else behind the scenes to give that man the mental boost he needs to continue holding is own. Think about the most powerful men in our world, there is a woman somewhere close by to work her magic so he can show off his. From cooking, cleaning and ironing to sex, massages and a simple kiss to replace words of encouragement to remind that man that it is his world!!
So ladies lets be real...people go through hard times but a real man will make the most out of his situation and work hard to put himself in a better place. There is nothing sadder (just an expression of course there is something sadder than this) than a grown ass mama's boy who is so comfortable under mommy that he doesnt realize that taking care of me will help me take care of him in more ways then his mama is willing to acknowledge.
So kids what the lesson for today? GROW THE FUCK UP!! THEN MAYBE I CAN RESPECT YOU.
So....let's got!!
"How old is too old for a man to still live with his mom?" To me there is no real answer for this question. I have dealt with all kinds of men from all walks of life and at some point they have given me their "story." From what i gather, on my research of men, men instinctively have the need to provide and protect. Which is why they are so territorial, jealous and sometimes pig-headed. (No fellas I am not bashing you...atleast not right this second). But it makes sense. As women we are very protective of our own which is why some mothers are so territorial, jealous and sometimes pig-headed as well. But here's the kicker...what does it take to make a man feel like a man? Besides the obvious of course.
I met a man who was 32 years old and lived with his mama. He had a fairly decent job, stayed out of trouble and was a genuinely nice guy. BUT his mama waited on him hand and foot! I had to get up out of there because he was NOT about to have me taking care of him all the damn time...So not acceptable!
Then I knew another guy age 27 who lived on the wrong side of the law but his place of residence was his moms house. He never "worked" from there but he had no other place that he called home. So does that count? Yes! he needs to have his OWN SPACE!!
It takes a man to stand his ground and hold is own. But it takes a woman to do everything else behind the scenes to give that man the mental boost he needs to continue holding is own. Think about the most powerful men in our world, there is a woman somewhere close by to work her magic so he can show off his. From cooking, cleaning and ironing to sex, massages and a simple kiss to replace words of encouragement to remind that man that it is his world!!
So ladies lets be real...people go through hard times but a real man will make the most out of his situation and work hard to put himself in a better place. There is nothing sadder (just an expression of course there is something sadder than this) than a grown ass mama's boy who is so comfortable under mommy that he doesnt realize that taking care of me will help me take care of him in more ways then his mama is willing to acknowledge.
So kids what the lesson for today? GROW THE FUCK UP!! THEN MAYBE I CAN RESPECT YOU.
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