So my ex bf gave me this suggestion: Is corporal punishment needed in schools today?
Ok first off let me tell you that I went to a Black-owned, Christian School from pre-k all the way to 7th grade. So of course, I got spankings in school. And of course, my mother approved them. She told every teacher, counselor on that campus that if I got out of line to "Take that shoe of yours and beat her ass!" I will admit that some of them did...hell all of them would but I wasn't that bad of a child. I respected my elders, did my lessons, didn't prevent anyone else from getting theirs and went on about my business.
I had bible class EVERY DAY and we had chapel service every Friday at the church 2 blocks away. The pastor of said church was also the founder of the school I attended. He himself administered a few spankings to the children at some point in time {not to me though ;-)}.
Now granted I knew better, but a little reminder every now and then didn't hurt.
My opinion today is that these children need there ASSES BEAT!! But not just in school. I personally feel that if a parent doesn't lay a foundation (or at least support your efforts) it is damn near impossible to change a child's ways.
If parents spent more time paying attention to their children and less time allowing other peoples gossip and drama to take up their time, there probably wouldn't be so many bad ass kids!
My generation has it the worse because some of them have been the product of bad parenting experiences themselves. It's hard to raise a child up to do right when you weren't raised that way. Yes it's good in theory, and at times it has happened but honestly, that is a very hard thing to overcome.
I'm not blaming it all on the parents because there are some geniunely, bad seeds out there in the world, but good parenting can make the difference.
So I say NO to corporal punishment in school but YES to corporal punishment at HOME.
Once again beat your child's ass! not abuse, but discipline! You beat them now, you wont need to bail them out later.
xoxoxoxoxoxo
MsSuga
Friday, February 12, 2010
Friday, February 5, 2010
Cavity Request: Men aint Shit
Men aint shit & why women continue to put up with it? requested by my sister Sapphire
Ladies you are NOT going to like this...BUT...I think men only do what we allow them to.
We get comfortable, as we should, and they take advantage. Granted some of them are just absolutely horrible people that care about no one or nothing else but themselves. But there are a few that have had their hearts shredded and just how we put up a wall block, they do too. Think about that man that you just up and left because his bank account wasn't where YOU wanted it to be. Or the one that had potential but u chose to go to his "well put together brother" yeah he might've brushed you off like it was nothing but yeah...That shit hurts...just like it hurts you.
Then think about the chick he met after you. Bet he didn't let her meet his homeboys, especially not the ones doing better than him. Bet he never showed her he was broke. And probably did everything in his power to make her think he was stable. And trying to impress her and your money hungry, yet broke, ass of an ex...he is now in debt and has moved back in with his parents.
Think about how he felt when you cursed him out and told everyone you knew that he was broke, and what did that accomplish? You hurt his pride, maybe made a few other females turn the other way when he apporached them...but in the end what did you really accomplish? Because you are still sitting around home alone screaming about "Men ain't shit...Men ain't shit..."
Have you ever considered that YOU AIN'T SHIT? & you just attract ain't shit people?
Now don't get me wrong, I've had my share of losers and heart breakers and I've done my share of heart breaking myself so i do understand both sides of the game. As human beings we can be selfish and deceitful and at times we can be kindhearted and loving. I think that we, myself included, hold on to the past and allow one person to carry the burdens of many. We expect too much from those that aren't capable of filling those expectations then are dissappointed in them for not being what we wanted them to be, but just being themselves. We have to remember that every situation is different. It MIGHT feel the same, It MIGHT even be oddly similar but THIS man is NOT THAT man. And THIS woman is NOT THAT woman.
At some point we have to own up to our contributions to heart break and realize that, we too, are not perfect, and we cannot expect something from others that we cannot produce ourselves. So Ladies yes we put up with alot but so do men. The might not express it as much but consider all the good he does do and how much he busts (
So your sweet treat for today: when making assumptions start with the person in the Mirror and see who really comes next.
xoxoxoxoxo
MsSuga
Ladies you are NOT going to like this...BUT...I think men only do what we allow them to.
We get comfortable, as we should, and they take advantage. Granted some of them are just absolutely horrible people that care about no one or nothing else but themselves. But there are a few that have had their hearts shredded and just how we put up a wall block, they do too. Think about that man that you just up and left because his bank account wasn't where YOU wanted it to be. Or the one that had potential but u chose to go to his "well put together brother" yeah he might've brushed you off like it was nothing but yeah...That shit hurts...just like it hurts you.
Then think about the chick he met after you. Bet he didn't let her meet his homeboys, especially not the ones doing better than him. Bet he never showed her he was broke. And probably did everything in his power to make her think he was stable. And trying to impress her and your money hungry, yet broke, ass of an ex...he is now in debt and has moved back in with his parents.
Think about how he felt when you cursed him out and told everyone you knew that he was broke, and what did that accomplish? You hurt his pride, maybe made a few other females turn the other way when he apporached them...but in the end what did you really accomplish? Because you are still sitting around home alone screaming about "Men ain't shit...Men ain't shit..."
Have you ever considered that YOU AIN'T SHIT? & you just attract ain't shit people?
Now don't get me wrong, I've had my share of losers and heart breakers and I've done my share of heart breaking myself so i do understand both sides of the game. As human beings we can be selfish and deceitful and at times we can be kindhearted and loving. I think that we, myself included, hold on to the past and allow one person to carry the burdens of many. We expect too much from those that aren't capable of filling those expectations then are dissappointed in them for not being what we wanted them to be, but just being themselves. We have to remember that every situation is different. It MIGHT feel the same, It MIGHT even be oddly similar but THIS man is NOT THAT man. And THIS woman is NOT THAT woman.
At some point we have to own up to our contributions to heart break and realize that, we too, are not perfect, and we cannot expect something from others that we cannot produce ourselves. So Ladies yes we put up with alot but so do men. The might not express it as much but consider all the good he does do and how much he busts (
So your sweet treat for today: when making assumptions start with the person in the Mirror and see who really comes next.
xoxoxoxoxo
MsSuga
Brain Fart
Ok so i've been drawing blanks when i try to come up with ideas to blog about. So i consulted a few people and came up with a few very wonderful topics. So...let's see what i can come up with. Ready for a new cavity? Well here they come!!!
xoxoxoxo
MsSuga
xoxoxoxo
MsSuga
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